Friday, July 29, 2011

Joy and Sorrow

This past month has felt like an emotional roller coaster for Dan and I. There's been a lot of grief, but always intertwined with love, thankfulness, and joy. Dan and I rarely travel separately, but last weekend he flew to Williamsburg, VA to visit his family, and specifically his Aunt Irene, who was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer last Thanksgiving. Her health seemed to stabilize for a while as she underwent treatment, but in the past month it was clear that she was quickly declining. Dan hoped that he'd be able to spend time with her when he flew to VA last Thursday, but God called her home the Tuesday before he arrived. Aunt Irene was a follower of Christ, and her family saw Him work in her life to simultaneously soften and strengthen her even as her body was failing. We're thankful that she's with God and free from pain, although we'll miss having this special woman in our lives. Dan was there for her memorial service and said it was a blessing to spend time with his extended family and others who loved Aunt Irene.

While Dan was in VA, I spent the weekend in Ft. Worth, TX to visit my family, and specifically my brother Paul, who was diagnosed with cancer in his spine earlier this month. Our family has been through the gamut of despair and hope as the doctors have explored Paul's treatment options. The great news is that he's receiving care from specialists at UT Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas who have treated similar cases. I don't think that any of them has met someone like Paul, who thrived for 32 years after having cancer in his brain at age 4. Most children with the type of cancer Paul had didn't live to adulthood or experience the rich life he's lived. Paul's had surgery to remove part of the tumor in his spine, and true to form, he's recovering better and more quickly than the doctors expected. (Now you know why my younger brother, Steve, and I are so crazy - we had an older brother who's a walking miracle and always exceeds expectations! Ha!) He'll heal for a few weeks before starting radiation/chemo, which we're praying will eradicate the rest of the tumor without damaging the nerves in his spine.

Since my parents retired in Ft. Worth, visiting their house is a new & fun experience. All our extended family also lives in TX, so we had visitors every day, which was so fun! Kind of a sporadic family reunion. Our families are really close, and we could definitely feel the love from all sides!

Obviously pictures weren't the main focus of our visits, but here are a few anyway.


Dan and Aunt Irene last Christmas in Williamsburg


One of my favorite guys in the world, who is teaching me a lot about faith in the Lord when the rubber meets the road. We'd all appreciate your prayers for Paul as he heals and continues treatment!


Me and my parents at their new house. They've mostly settled in, but my mom and I did a little shopping for furniture and found places to hang pictures on the walls. I like how my dad is using my mom and I to give himself an amazing hourglass figure in this picture. Well played, Dad. :)


Steve was there, too, and this is the only picture I took of him all weekend. Dan & I & my mom pitched in to buy him new shoes for his birthday, and they were apparently more important than his face. Heh. Sorry, Steve! :)

4 comments:

The.Ferlands said...

Debbie,
Thanks for the update on your family. Paul has definitely been in our prayers s well as for your folks.
Love,
Kim

the williams said...

so sorry to hear all of that, debby. praying for paul now and the rest of you. peace of Christ to you, dan, and all your families

Adessa Shaddix said...

I have been praying for you guys and Steve! It is amazing how God continues to make His love and joy present during such hard times.

The McGregor Clan said...

So sorry to hear about your brother's re-occurance. I am glad the initial surgery was a success and hope the chemo goes well and does the job. Sorry to hear about Dan's aunt too. I lost my aunt to bladder cancer 5 years ago. So young(she was in her 50s) and sad for our family. She is missed at every family gathering. I am glad he was able to be apart of the services for her to celebrate her life and spirit. Love ya.